Hurt Feelings-It Happens

You can’t control how someone treats you or whether they see their mistakes — but you can control how you rise from it. Sometimes peace isn’t found in the apology, but in the power you reclaim by choosing your own closure.

When someone you care about hurts you, your mind can spiral with questions: Did I overreact? Am I too sensitive? Should I have handled it differently? These thoughts come from a place of confusion — because part of you wants to protect the relationship, while another part knows something wasn’t right.

The first step toward healing is acknowledging what you feel.
You don’t have to minimize your pain just because they don’t understand it. Your emotions are valid, even if the other person never validates them. Pretending it didn’t hurt only delays your healing. Give yourself permission to grieve — not only what happened, but the version of that relationship you thought you had.

It’s also important to separate intent from impact.
They may not have meant to hurt you — but that doesn’t erase the effect of their actions. Understanding this distinction frees you from waiting for them to “get it.” You can recognize their humanity without dismissing your own hurt.

Once you’ve allowed yourself to feel, the next step is releasing the need for resolution from them. This is one of the hardest parts. We crave closure through understanding, but sometimes the person who hurt us doesn’t have the capacity to provide that. And that’s okay. Closure doesn’t always come from conversation — sometimes it comes from acceptance.

Forgiveness, in this sense, isn’t about excusing what happened. It’s about choosing not to carry the weight of it anymore. It’s deciding that your peace matters more than your pride, that your healing matters more than being right.